(Also: see our two Face-to-Face Groups in Palo Alto: one for adults with ADHD and one for the “partners of”)
All groups are moderated by Gina Pera
Maybe you hear this at your house: “What kind of support do they have for the person who struggles to live with an ADHD person, or perhaps a whole house full of them?”
Well, CHADD Norcal does understand.
Sometimes the partner who does not have ADHD seems to be spending all of their days chasing around with doctors appointments for the kids, trying to convince the ADHD partner that if he or she put the keys in the same place everyday, there wouldn’t be a crisis every morning. At the same time, it seems like nobody else is concerned about the state of near chaos upon which the entire household teeters.
Then there is the partnering level. As if being in a relationship were not complicated enough, a relationship with an ADHD partner can create a myriad of new misunderstandings and disappointed expectations. Did my partner really forget how important that was to me? Does my partner purposely drop the ball, knowing I will catch it?
Guess what? Sometimes both partners have ADHD.
You may recognize that the adult with ADHD is not doing those things just to aggravate you. It only seems that way! A good resource for individuals with ADHD and their partners is the book Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder, available in paperback, Kindle, and audio formats.
Then consider joining this support group. CHADD of Northern California offers “ADHD Partner” as an online support group, drawing from all over the world, not just Northern California. This support group gives the partners of adults with ADHD in your house a chance to be heard and supported by others who “get it.”!
The group is moderated by Gina Pera, who also co-facilitates the face-to-face partner group in Palo Alto and the Adult ADHD group (click on this link to sign up for notifications of both meetings), held in Palo Alto.
Restrictions: Group membership is limited to partners of adults who have ADHD and participation is for members only. Your first few messages will be moderated to assure that you are using the group appropriately.