A Note About Forgiveness

The following article has been published with the kind permission of Michael Hinckley, Ph.D., a personal coach who specializes in working with people with ADHD who want to thrive because of, not just despite their ADHD. Mike can be contacted at [email protected]

by Michael C. Hinckley, Ph.D.

Having ADHD may explain some of the things that we do and wish we hadn’t done, or that we don’t do but wish that we had. But we are still responsible for what we say, what we do, and what we don’t do. Sometimes this is hard, especially since many of us have to live with the fact that we will probably make more mistakes and commit more social blunders than most other people, no matter how much we learn, no matter how hard we try, no matter how many medications we take. What matters is that we do our best to learn from our mistakes and do our best to make appropriate amends. But once we have done that, it’s time to put the mistake behind us and to forgive ourselves. Another important thing to keep in mind is that since we often depend on forgiveness from others, it is wise to be forgiving of them as well.

If you want to learn more about forgiveness — why it is important, what it is and isn’t, and how you can learn to forgive, I recommend “Forgive For Good” by Dr. Fred Luskin, Harper San Francisco, ISBN 0-06-251721-X.